After all the months of planning every last detail of your wedding, you’d think all the work would be done once the guests have gone home, right? Well almost. Just one thing left to do: write thank you notes for all those wonderful gifts! Many of your guests not only travel hundreds of miles and spend quite a bit of money to be there for your big day, but they also throw in more for a wedding gift (often after also getting engagement and shower gifts as well!) So, needless to say, it’s important to send them a little (and prompt!) note to say thanks.
While it may seem like a formidable task to send out so many thank you notes in such a short amount of time, I’ve got a few tips that can help you knock them out in no time!
Before the wedding:
- Save the address spreadsheet from your invitations. Make note of any changes of address from between the time you sent out your invites and the time of your wedding.
- Purchase thank you notes, stamps, and envelopes ahead of time. No need to wait until after your wedding to buy thank you notes. I know couples often like to use a photo from the wedding as their card, and if this is the case be sure to work something out with your photographer so you can get the photo as soon as possible after the wedding. I’d recommend just ordering photo-free thank you cards at the same time as you order your invitations. Either way, please do NOT include a pre-printed message on the inside. Thank you notes need to be personal, and unless you’re going to write a detailed personal message in addition to the generic pre-printed one, just skip it.
- Address envelopes ahead of time. Each time an RSVPs comes in, grab a thank you note envelope and address it right back to them. You could also easily address 10 envelopes a day while waiting for the Keurig to heat up, during commercials, etc. Just get them done before the week of your wedding!
After the wedding:
- Keep track of who gave you what as you open gifts. Create a list (you can even print out your address spreadsheet) and write down who gave you the gift as you open it. Be specific as you write it down so you can directly reference it in your note (ex: the crystal serving platter vs. the tuscan ceramic serving platter) and so that you can use the right one when they come to visit!
- Create a loose template of what you’ll write. It’s difficult to come up with a completely unique message for each one of your gifts, but you can make it easier on yourself if you set up a guide. Try something like this: “Dear (guest), It was such a pleasure getting to spend our big day with you! Thank you so much for our (specific gift). (Cute anecdote if you can such as:) We were so excited to register for the mixer and are even more excited to mix our first batch of cookies together with it! We’ll think of you every time we use it. Sincerely, The new Mr. & Mrs. (couple)” You can keep the same basic format for each note, but still be sure to make it thoughtful and personal!
- Get your spouse’s help to write them. He or she is getting to use the gifts too, whether directly or indirectly, so get them done as a team. Maybe split up the guest list and have him do the ones for his side and you do your side? Just make sure that you check off your guest list before you send them out in order to make sure you didn’t miss anyone.
- Plan more than one day to do it. Maybe even make it a date with your new hubby and reflect together on how blessed you are to have so many people who love you two! Also, refer to him as your husband as much as possible as you work together, it’s fun to say right after you get married!
- Lastly, and most importantly, get them out promptly. When you follow these steps, you will be prepared early on and will be able to get your thank you notes without any stress at all!